“The only time a man can be brave is when he is afraid.”
― George R.R. Martin
It sounds a bit strange, but that feeling can sometimes be good.
In the post about metaphors, I mentioned roads and crossroads. Being at the personal or professional crossroad and thinking which way to go can be one of the reasons of that fear. It happens when you are trying to make a change and a brand-new start. The main reason behind that is failing. Fear of failing, to be more exact. A lot of people especially in the last six months have come to coaching session with this topic in mind. They are looking for space to express themselves through ideas for new beginnings.
I’ve recently read that fear of failing is the number one killer of grand plans and good ideas and I couldn’t agree more.
In my opinion, the smaller the country – the greater the fear is. All eyes are on you, people are watching and waiting to see the result. The pressure is very high. These environments often don’t support those who have the clear picture and ask for different ways to achieve that. In that process they need support, not criticisms and doubts.
What if you fail?
You should try again. In the ideal world your persistence would be seen as bravery. The reality is different. You are regarded by most people as the one who failed, and sometimes even defined by that. On the bright side, more people have begun to see these situations as inspirational and as genuine stories of success (not stories of failure).
When we were children, we used to fall countless times before we learned to walk. We got the support and the encouragement we needed. Why should it be any different now, in the adult world?
My message goes to those who are now afraid and don’t know what the future holds. Dare. It will soon pay off and be worth it. Surround yourself with people who care and support. Be the one who does the same – show support and love to those who try. By doing that, the circle of support is widening.
